[originaltext] It’s not easy talking to a relative or a friend who is dying.

It’s not easy talking to a relative or a friend who is dying. But dying can be an isolating business if your relatives and friends are too scared to speak to you. It doesn’t get much more difficult. Being at the side of a family member or a friend at the end of life, though, can be the most important thing you will ever do for someone.
    Most people will know they are dying — these days doctors tell them. This doesn’t mean they only want to talk about that; take your cue from them. "How are you feeling?" is often enough to start a conversation.[32]If you aren’t suffering from a terminal illness yourself, don’t tell the person you know how he or she feels. But it’s fine to tell someone you love them and will miss them.
    If they are close to you, you could suggest ways in which you can remember them; putting together a box of memories or making a DVD of them. Discussing your shared history and what you’ve meant to each other can be comforting for both of you.
    You don’t need to be a professional counselor to be helpful to someone near the end of life. Just being there for someone who is lonely and isolated can be more than enough.[33]When talking to someone who is dying, you won’t go wrong if you simply listen. Don’t have expectations about how the person should feel. Listen without criticism and without giving advice.[34]If it is too hard for you to visit, show your support with a phone call or personal note.
    Psychologist Susan Wright advises allowing the persons to feel they are still a-live. "Don’t make everything about how awful it is.[35]When someone is dying the quality of their life is very important. "
32. What should we avoid doing to a person who is dying, according to the passage?
33. What should we do when talking to a dying person?
34. What does the speaker suggest we do if we can not visit a dying person?
35. What does a dying person mind very much, according to psychologist Susan Wright?