Parents are often upset when their children praise the homes of their friend

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问题     Parents are often upset when their children praise the homes of their friends and regard it as a slur (诋毁) on their own cooking, or cleaning, or furniture, and often are foolish enough to let the adolescents see that they are annoyed. They may even accuse them of disloyalty, or make some spiteful remark about the friends’ parents. Such a loss of dignity and descent into childish behavior on the part of the adults deeply shocks the adolescents, and makes them resolve that in future they will not talk to their parents about the place or people they visit. Before very long the parents will be complaining that the child is so secretive and never tells them anything, but they seldom realize that they have brought this on themselves.
    Disillusionment with the parents, however good and adequate they may be both as parents and as individuals, is to some degree inevitable. Most children have such a high ideal of their parents, unless the parents themselves have been unsatisfactory, that it can hardly hope to stand up to a realistic evaluation. Parents would be greatly surprised and deeply touched if they realized how much belief their children usually have in their character and infallibility, and how much this faith means to a child. If parents were prepared for this adolescent reaction, and realized that it was a sign that the child was growing up and developing valuable powers of observation and independent judgment, they would not be so hurt, and therefore would not drive the child into opposition by resenting and resisting it.
    The adolescent, with his passion for sincerity, always respects a parent who admits that he is wrong, or ignorant, or even that he has been unfair or unjust. What the child cannot forgive is the parent’s refusal to admit these charges if the child knows them to be true
    Victorian parents believed that they kept their dignity by retreating behind an unreasoning authoritarian attitude; in fact they did nothing of the kind, but children were then too cowed to let them know how they really felt. Today we tend to go to the other extreme, but on the whole this is a healthier attitude both for the child and the parent. It is always wiser and safer to face up to reality, however painful it may be at the moment. [br] When adolescents feel disillusion with their parents, it means that they

选项 A、feel disappointed with their parents.
B、are developing into maturity.
C、just want to hurt their parents.
D、are expressing their discontentment.

答案 B

解析 细节判断题。根据题干中的feel disillusion定位到第2段。本题考查孩子对父母幻想破灭的本质。文中指出,如果父母确实了解孩子的这一看法,就会知道这意味着孩子此时正处在走向成熟的阶段……因此B符合原文的意思。根据原文。孩子对家长幻想的破灭是孩子不断成熟的表现,A、D都是孩子对家长幻想破灭的表象,不是问题的实质,应予以排除;父母了解孩子这一反应的实质之后就不会感到难过,可见孩子并不是故意伤害父母.因而C也应予以排除。
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