[originaltext] Can you really make new friends as an adult? I mean, there’s

Can you really make new friends as an adult? I mean, there’s plenty of advice out there on how to help kids make friends. But if you don’t have friends by the time you’re an adult, it seems the world hands you a dunce (愚笨的人) cap and shows you to the corner.
     After all, many adults have all the friends they need or want, right? People get married, have kids and have little time for others outside their family. Does that make it harder to meet new people after a certain age?
    Well, yes and no. (19) It depends on your geographic location. Yes, many people "settle down" after a certain age. But not everyone. And while it may take a little more time to "warm up" to a new friend as an adult, it can certainly be done.
    In fact, many of the techniques kids instinctively use to make friends on the playground work for ages 4 through 104. So here are some habits of highly social children that can help you make friends.
    First of all, leverage current social assets.
    I remember back in Kindergarten, I would make friends through other friends. One friend might have a birthday party where I’d meet other kids. Some would become new friends. It’s not quite as easy as an adult, but the same principle applies. First ask yourself, who are you already around on a normal basis? This might include: current friends, coworkers, family members.
    Then, be aware of invites from these "social assets" and say yes to birthday parties, reunions, holiday events, after work drinks, company picnics, etc. (20) At these events, you’ll likely meet new people who are friends of friends or family.
    Also, go to interest groups, not bars.
    Some kids are really active going to gymnastics, band, theater and more. Ideally, these are activities the kids enjoy. And there lies the magic. You have a group of kids, all doing something they love, together. That’s where the bonding comes. There’s seldom any shared activity or interest in a bar.
    (21) The common thread in bars, if there is any, is people go there to socialize. So, the greatest "socializers" win. If you aren’t that comfortable socializing, you strike out. Instead, why not go somewhere you know the people will share your interests? For example, if you’re interested in writing, it’s a good bet members in a writer’s group will be too. So you have an instant connection with them and a built-in topic to start conversations.
    Questions 19 to 21 are based on the recording you have just heard.
    19. Which is correct about making new friends as an adult?
    20. How will you benefit from social activities like birthday parties?
    21. What does the speaker say about going to a bar?