In China, where several generations once shared the same dwelling, adult chi

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问题     In China, where several generations once shared the same dwelling, adult children usually live with parents until they marry. Do you think it’s acceptable for adult kids to live at home? The following are opinions from different sides. Read the excerpts carefully and write your response in about 300 words, in which you should:
    1. summarize briefly the opinions from different sides;
    2. give your comment.
    Marks will be awarded for content relevance, content sufficiency, organization and language quality. Failure to follow the above instructions may result in a loss of marks.
Western parents
    Mick (the UK) : Coddling people does not help them stand on their own. Let them live at home during college to save money if you must, but once they graduate, they should be on their own. This doesn’t mean chronic helicopter parents can’t send over a care package and help them out. What I mean here is that unless there is some sort of serious handicap, parents shouldn’t go there and deal with the trouble that comes with it. After four years of college and being in their 20s they should be as prepared as they will ever be to live on their own.
    Ratfink (Australia): In the West children are now staying at home longer than previously. It’s not uncommon to see kids staying until their 30s or until getting married. This is in part due to the ridiculous cost of housing in much of the developed world as well as exorbitant rates for house sharing or room rental, coupled with the fact that kids are often in so much debt after purchasing a car, paying for their education and splurging on non-essentials such as the latest phones.
    Jeremy (the US) : Adult children can live with their parents; however, I cannot bear them taking advantage. They should pay the rent, food, utilities and other expenses just as they would if they were living with a roommate. They should also provide assistance for their parents, such as cooking meals, cleaning and driving to appointments.
Chinese parents
    Genie (China) : I have a daughter who is 25 and living at home. She lived with us right out of college, and was lucky enough to find a really good contract job and was able to pay off her student loans. She then found a permanent job and rented an apartment with two others. The lease came up and everyone went his own way. Now she is back with us, commuting to work and saving up to buy her own place. If a young adult is smart, and his/her parents supportive, having kids live at home until they can truly stand on their own two feet is a good way to go. Isn’t that what a family is for?
    WRONGMAN (China): Independence is the critical milestone of young adulthood. It is my duty as a parent to push my daughter out of the nest, forcibly if necessary, when she graduates. We are trying to help her gain confidence and independence incrementally—dormitory life for the first year of college to subsidized (by us) apartment for the rest of the course. Although we pay the majority of her rent and utilities, she is expected to work part time for food money. If she chooses not to work, hunger is a strong motivator. She is also well aware that upon graduation she is on her own financially.
Young people
    Tony (Canada) : I think it’s important for adult kids to move out when they can. Living with your parents for too long just makes it much more difficult to be on your own. It’s not being disrespectful to live on your own; it’s called being independent and there is nothing wrong with that.
    Write your response on ANSWER SHEET FOUR.

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答案         Do You Think It’s Acceptable for Adult Kids to Live at Home?
    Recent years, a new term in China is frequently mentioned, "kenlaozu", which refers to the adult children who depend heavily on their parents. And it is said that many western young people choose to live with their parents too. As to this phenomenon, people have different views.
    Western parents suggest moderate separation. That is, they will not intervene in their adult children’s life unless they are in trouble. Most of them would help as they understand the financial pressures that young people confront nowadays, such as the surging house price, the debt for student loans or cars, etc. , even though some parents may require certain amount of assistance or pay for their expenses at home. At the same time, the past over-protective Chinese parents are learning moderate separation. They will try to help the children to build up their confidence and independence incrementally until they can afford to buy their own places and live on their own. A representative idea from a young man is that the longer you live with your parents, the more difficult it is to be independent.
    Comparing the positive aspects with the negative ones, I contend that young people live independently. First, excessive dependence on parents may hinder the psychological growth and mental maturity of children. Independence is the first step of one’s growth. Not to mention the fact that the parental obligation ends once their children grow into adults according to the law. Second, the delayed separation may offend the demand of adulthood privacy. Parents and children living together may increase conflicts rather than affection, because privacy is the basic biological need of the creature. Conflicts will appear when parents and children could not agree with each other on living habits, dietary habits or views of the world. Third, excessive intimacy between parents and adult children actually affects the sense of happiness in kids’ adult life. The continuous increasing ratio of divorce among young people results largely from the excessive interruption of parents on their adult children’s life. Parents should be rational and sensible enough to drive mommy’s boys and girls out of their possessions.
    Therefore, I don’t think adult children should rely too much on their parents. Separation sometimes is painful, but it is all for the good of the future of the children.

解析 本题讨论成年孩子是否应该与父母同住的问题,命题是社会各界关注的焦点。本题要求简要概括所给材料中的三方观点,并发表白己的看法。在具体的写作过程中,考生可以开篇点明社会现象,并提出论题:成年孩子是否应该与父母同住;第二段简要阐述西方父母、中国父母和年轻人的三方观点;第三段重点阐述自己对这一问题的看法,并说明理由;最后一段总结全文,重申观点。
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