A week after our daughter Lauren was born, my wife Bonnie and I were complete

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问题    A week after our daughter Lauren was born, my wife Bonnie and I were completely exhausted. Each night Lauren kept waking us. Bonnie had been torn in the delivery and was taking painkillers. She could barely walk. After five days of staying home to help, I went back to work. She seemed to be getting better.
   While I was away she ran out of pain pills. Instead of calling me at the office, she asked one of my brothers, who was visiting, to purchase more. My brother, however, did not return with the pills. Consequently, she spent the whole day in pain, taking care of a newborn.
     I had no idea that her day had been so awful. When I returned home she was very upset. I misinterpreted the cause of her distress and thought she was blaming me.
     She said, "I’ve been in pain all day... I ran out of pills. I’ve been stranded in bed and nobody cares!" I said defensively, "Why didn’t you call me?"
     She said, "I asked your brother, but he forgot! I’ve been waiting for him to return all day. What am I supposed to do? I can barely walk. I feel so deserted!"
     At this point I exploded. My fuse was also very short that day. I was angry that she hadn’t called me. I was furious that she was blaming me when I didn’t even know she was in pain. After exchanging a few harsh words, I headed for the door. I was fired, irritable, and had heard enough. We had both reached our limits. Then something started to happen that would change my life.
     Bonnie said, "Stop, please don’t leave. This is when I need you the most. Please listen to me." I stopped for a moment to listen.
     This incident with Bonnie revealed to me how I could change this pattern.
     She said, "John Gray, you’re a fair-weather friend! As long as I’m sweet, loving Bonnie you are here for me, but as soon as I’m not, you walk right out of that door."
     Then she paused, and her eyes filled up with tears. As her tone shifted she said, "Right now I’m in pain. I have nothing to give; this is when I need you the most. Please, come over here and hold me. I just need to feel your arms around me. Please don’t go."
     I walked over and silently held her. She wept in my arms. She told me that she just needed to feel me holding her.
     At that moment I started to realize the real meaning of love, unconditional love. I had always thought of myself as a loving person. But she was right. I had been a fair-weather friend. As long as she was happy and nice, I loved back. But if she was unhappy or upset, I would feel blamed and then argue or distance myself.
   That day, for the first time, I didn’t leave her. I stayed, and it felt great. I succeeded in giving to her when she really needed me. This felt like real love. Caring for another person. Trusting in our love. Being there at her hour of need.
   How had I missed this? She just needed me to go over and hold her. Another woman would have instinctively known what Bonnie needed. But as a man, I didn’t know that touching, holding, and listening were so important to her. By recognizing these differences I began to learn a new way of relating to my wife. I would have never believed we could resolve conflict so easily. [br] Which of the following is INCORRECT according to the passage?

选项 A、John didn’t fail in his argument with Bonnie although he gave in at last.
B、Woman has more sentimental feelings than man and deserves more care when they are in trouble.
C、Compared with women, men has more advantages in understanding their wives’ feelings.
D、John was always a careless husband and did not solve their conflicts properly before.

答案 C

解析 推理判断题。A 项见于文章第十三段第三、四句“I succeeded in giving to her when she really needed me”(我胜就胜在,在她真正需要我的时候我做出了让步),“This felt like real love”,可见,做出让步还让作者感受到了真爱,因此,作者让步却不失败。B 项可由文章第十四段“I didn’t know that touching,holding,and listening were so important to her”及第十段中邦妮的表现“I’m in pain...this is when I need you the most.Please,come over here and hold me.I just need to feel your arms around me”得出,女性的情感更加感性化。C 项错误,文章第十四段中作者提到“Another woman would have instinctively known....But as a man,I didn’t know that...”(其他女性可以本能地了解到……,但作为男性,我却不知道……),由此可见C 项与原文意思正好相反。D 项见于文章第14段,“I didn’t know  that touching,holding,and listening were 30 important to her”,“I would have never believed we could resolve conflict so easily”(我从未想到可以如此轻松地解决我们之间的矛盾),可以推出,以前解决矛盾并不容易,其原因是方法不当;此外,约翰对妻子邦妮的痛苦不能体谅,及多次提到的“I don’t know”,丈夫的粗心可见一斑,故D 项表述正确,答案为C 。
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