When one spouse is depressed, a marriage is depressed. This illness erodes e

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问题     When one spouse is depressed, a marriage is depressed. This illness erodes emotional and sexual intimacy and makes a relationship filled with pessimism and resentment, anger and isolation. Even the sunniest, most capable partner can be pulled into depression’s strong undertow(潜在影响): You may be overwhelmed by extra household chores that your partner is too lethargic(无精打采的)to finish, resentful because your spouse won’t just snap out of it, or feel that you’re somehow to blame for the illness itself. You may feel alone yet unwilling to tell anyone there’s depression in your household, or you may simply wonder when the sparkle and joy, the humor and fun seeped out of your relationship.
    If there’s depression in your marriage, it’s time to act—for your partner and yourself. Waiting increases the chances that your relationship won’t last; depressed couples are nine times more likely to divorce. And trying to fight or make peace with this often misunderstood illness on your own raises risks for both of you. Admit that you cannot cure your partner’s depression. Your spouse needs your love, support and concern. But these important qualities can’t reverse depression any more than they can control blood sugar, ease arthritis pain, or clear out clogged(阻塞的)arteries. Just as you wouldn’t rely on love alone to cure a medical condition—or withdraw love because it didn’t—don’t expect that your feelings or attention will be able to alter your spouse’s disordered brain chemistry. Use your love to get help and to remind your partner of his or her intrinsic worth during this challenging time.
    Remember, you’re not alone. An estimated 19 million Americans are currently going through depression. In the Reader’s Digest Marriage in America Survey, 42 percent of respondents named depression as a major challenge in their relationships. It’s not surprising that most said this insidious illness had a negative effect on them. But there was an unexpected ray of hope; One in four said depression had a positive outcome for their marriages. "Getting diagnosed and treated makes all the difference, " says Emily Scott-Lowe, Ph. D. , an assistant visiting professor of social work at Pepperdine University, who leads workshops across the country about depression and marriage with her husband, Dennis Lowe, Ph. D. , a psychologist and director of Pepperdine’s Center for the Family. "Just 33 percent of people with depression seek and get help. But when you do, your chances for significant improvement are 80 to 90 percent. Almost everyone gets some relief.
    "There’s a bias that says women get depression more often than men, but it may just be that men don’t ask for help or realize what’s wrong, or respond to depression by abusing alcohol or becoming aggressive or violent, " Emily Scott-Lowe says. "And often with men, there’s more agitation than lethargy. A man may seem worked up. He may have frenetic, restless energy that doesn’t fit with the typical picture of someone in bed with shades down and the sheets up over their head. "
    The couple now present workshops about depression’s impact on couples and families based on their own experience. Their advice? See depression as an unwelcome guest—it’s an illness, not a shortcoming. Get help, and support, together. [br] The title that best expresses the theme of the passage is______.

选项 A、Depression—an Unwelcome Guest
B、Depression’s Impact on Marriage
C、Protect Yourself from Depression
D、How to Cope with a Depressed Spouse

答案 D

解析 主旨题 本文第一段讲述了当婚姻中的一方患了抑郁症,另一方会面临一些威胁到他或她自身,或者他们婚姻的问题;第二段说明了当婚姻中出现抑郁症患者,另一方应该积极寻求帮助并鼓励对方,而不是等待或者独自面对;第三段用调查结果和艾米丽的观点做证据,进一步论述有抑郁症患者的夫妻应该一起积极寻求治疗帮助;第四段澄清了一种偏见,说明男性和女性一样也经常会得抑郁症,只是表现形式不一样;第五段则概括性地给出了夫妻双方对抑郁症的建议。纵观全文可知,[D]“如何应对患抑郁症的配偶”作标题最合适,故为正确答案。[A]“抑郁症——不速之客”太宽泛,不足以概括主旨,故排除;[B]”抑郁症对婚姻的影响”在文中只是有所提及,而不能全面概括本文的内容,所以排除;[C]”保护你自己免遭抑郁症的伤害”不是本文主要论述的内容,也排除。
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