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We have compiled a list of things that expectant couples and new parents can

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问题     We have compiled a list of things that expectant couples and new parents can do on their own to reduce the expected strain and enjoy more of the positive side of becoming a family.

    Many husbands and wives neglect to share with each other their private notions of the ideal family. They assume that once they’ve decided to have a baby their ideal family picture will take place spontaneously. Others are reluctant to talk about their hopes and anxieties because they are afraid that disagreement or conflict might result from finding that they differ on important issues. Men and women who can talk to each other about what they hope will happen, and what they are concerned might happen, begin their lives as parents feeling better prepared to deal with both the positive and the negative realities.
    We suggest that partners try to make a regular time each week to go for a walk, to talk with no interruptions — basically to touch base with each other. Many husbands and wives say the day gets away from them. By the time everything is cleaned up at night, they are too exhausted for intimate conversation. It sounds terribly artificial, but making an appointment or a date can be useful — even if the laundry or dinner dishes have to wait or the "date" must be rescheduled because of a crying baby or fatigue.
    If one partner feels that something is a problem, at least for now, it is a problem. We recommend discussing only one problem at a time, with an explicit agreement that other difficulties will be addressed at the next opportunity. If partners can trust that both their issues will be addressed in time, they are less likely to sabotage today’s discussion.
    Last but not least, talk with a friend or co-worker. We find that participating in an ongoing group with the help of a trained mental health professional and other couples can buffer men’s and women’s dissatisfaction and keep marital disenchantment from getting out of hand, at least for the first few years. Although these kinds of groups are not available at this time the same kind of sharing of information might come from special friends or co-workers who are willing to talk about their experiences of being partners and parents.
    Every couple has both trivial and important issues they need to work out. To cope with the stressful situations you will need to adopt an experimental attitude. The trick is to take a step and shift from a "What are you doing wrong?" position to a "What’s going on in our lives that this is happening now?" attitude. And remember, it’s never too late for a positive change. [br] It is suggested in the passage that when a crisis happens, the couple should______.
选项 A、take a more positive attitude toward life
B、solve the problem as soon as possible
C、regard it as a shared problem instead of blaming the other put
D、neglect it and pay more attention to the positive side of life
答案 C
解析 推理判断题。末段指出秘诀在于采取把“你做错了什么”这种立场转化成“我们的生活中发生了什么导致现在这样的情况发生”的态度，即：由把责任推到个人身上转向夫妻双方共同探讨问题，故选项[C]正确。
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