Pepper Schwartz puts her personal affairs into her book because they are______.

Interviewer(M)Pepper Schwartz(W)
M: Pepper Schwartz is a sociologist and author of Prime -. adventures and advice on love and the sensual years. Pepper, good morning to you. Now this book is extremely personal.(2- 1)You were married for 23 years and you’ve recently divorced. How did you feel about putting all of your personal business into a book?
W: Well, it was hard, I mean, to make a decision. Once you made the decision, you move ahead.(2 - 2)But I felt as an educator—I teach at the University of Washington —that(1)sometimes the best education is personal: your life, the ups, the downs, the heartbreaks, the triumphs, and then get some lessons from it.
M: So was it tough? I mean how you started off, getting back into the dating world, after 23 years of being married. What’s the first thing you did?
W: Well, I tried to lose weight. That’s the first thing I did. But the second thing was just to get my mind in shape, just say: " OK, I really want to find somebody. " Then I went online.(2 - 3)I was actually already a relationship expert at Perfectmatch. com, but I had never done it myself. So I had to go.
M: So what’s it to go online?
W: Well. You know, you have to prepare your ego. Not everybody is going to want you, not everybody is going to meet you and say: " Oh, you are great. " They are going to say nothing. So, you have to deal with that.
M: I love the story you said about how you met a guy online who made " animalized noises during conversation" , and then you met this tattoo-clad French guy. But what I love about you is you didn’t just go plug your nose and say, " Oh, that was horrible. " You take little lessons away from these dates.
W: Oh, absolutely.(3 - 1)At the end of every chapter, I say, here is what I learned out of the lesson: here is what you can too. I think like an anthropologist, I am out in the world, learning things I wouldn’t normally learn. There is nothing I can’t be educated by. And I don’t even have to take this as "Oh, gosh, another bad date. " Because that’s what a lot of women do. They say: "OK, there are three bad dates. It’s over. I am not going there. I am done. "(3-2)No, you have to be able to be flexible, and look at it as education and you will find someone if you take, if you keep at it.
M:(4 - 1)And you said that women should rethink some of the big no-nos they say in their life. Let me just list some of them. I will not travel out of town to meet someone I don’t know well. I wouldn’t let someone I had only met briefly or online travel significant distance to see me. I would never date someone significantly older or younger than me. I don’t like partners significantly taller or shorter than me. I am not going to approach someone who I think is attractive in an airport, restaurant or on the street. You said it’s time to rethink that whole list. Why not stick to those standards and say I’m not going to do those things?’
W:(4-2)Well, if you stick to those standards, you will be very very lonely. Because there are just too many nos. I say why not. Particularly when you are over fifty or any age, you say, let’s start.(4-3)Why don’t I take a look at the whole broad out there, and see what I can learn from it? Your question should be why not. It is supposed no-never. I try to get rid of never period.
M: What kind of guys are looking for women in their fifties? As you always hear about these guys looking for these young 20 some things or 30 some things, who is looking for a woman in her forties or fifties?
W: Lots of men, thousands of men. Everybody says there is no good man. That’s just simply not true. That’s one way of saying I don’t want to put myself out there. There are CEOs. There are professional athletes. They are just great guys, ordinary guys with good hearts, good character. Why would people on the net worse than those who are out there in everyday life? In fact, they are better. Because at least, at our side, for many of the others, they are looking for relationships.(5)And I believe that when you are older, somebody wants a companion not a marriage.
M: Oh, Pepper, I want to say, of all your books, this one is definitely the juiciest. Again, thank you so much. We appreciate you being on the show.