In most cultures it is traditional for a man to propose marriage on a bended

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问题     In most cultures it is traditional for a man to propose marriage on a bended knee, with a diamond ring. As a woman’s proposal is often considered inappropriate and unacceptable, do you think it is okay for women to propose marriage? The following are opinions from two sides. Read the excerpts carefully and write your response in about 300 words, in which you should:
    1. summarize briefly the opinions from two sides;
    2. give your comment.
    Marks will be awarded for content relevance, content sufficiency, organization and language quality. Failure to follow the above instructions may result in a loss of marks.
Men
    Britny (the UK) : A man should take the initiative to propose marriage. Generally speaking, after being in a relationship for some time, most (not all) men have their mind on marriage. If he hasn’t proposed after a while, maybe his mind isn’t on it.
    LAAD Gunner-USMC (the US) : I wouldn’t like it. There’s nothing wrong with it but I think it would be kind of awkward. I mean it would be flattering, but it really steals a major moment in a man’s life. But I’m not every guy.
    Blonde Amber (Ireland) : Too often, TV and movies promote an "ideal" romance that many women mistake for how the reality should be: that girls should " wait" to be swept off their feet by a "white knight". The reality is that if you are in a secure and respectful relationship, whichever partner proposes marriage is unimportant. A real man would not be threatened by a confident woman. Should a woman propose? Why not? If a man can accept her for her accomplishments and skills, he should be man enough to accept a marriage proposal.
    Teamkrejados (Australia) : If women want to be equal in society, it should not be men’s exclusive role to propose marriage, provide a house, a car and money that the relationship needs to get parental and societal approval. Now that women are allowed to have careers and buy property there is no reason for men to have so much pressure.
Women
    Celina (China) : I would never propose to a guy because it not only shows my insecurity but exposes my desperation. Times have changed, but there are some issues that are definitely not up for compromise. To make it worse, if a woman is ever forced to go down on one knee then the guy doesn’t deserve her.
    CarolleRain (France): I don’t take this question as some kind of social power issue. It’s just a personal choice. It is true in most Asian countries that men are the ones who should propose and it is deeply rooted in Asian culture. Nowadays, some girls propose. It is nothing to do with social power; it is just their personal choice. If one day I meet a shy guy, maybe I will be the one who proposes and vice versa.
    Melissa (Canada) : I don’t feel there’s anything wrong with a woman proposing to a man. It doesn’t mean you’re desperate. When a man proposes to a woman, does that mean he’s desperate too? What if he’s ready and the woman isn’t? He’s waiting for her. Women want a confident, strong man that can take charge. But men also want a woman who is confident, self-sufficient and knows what she wants from life. So my thing is, proposing is not one’s responsibility anymore.
    Sarah (Australia): I actually proposed to my man. I am truly in love with him and would like to spend the rest of my life with him. Yes, we talked about marriage but didn’t know if or when we should ask the question. I waited for our first anniversary as a couple to propose. Yes, I hear it from my father because he is an old school but all I can say is tell him a female has rights just as many as a male has. I love him and that’s all that matter. Just hope everything work out for the best.
    Write your response on ANSWER SHEET FOUR.

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答案                 Is It OK for Women to Propose Marriage?
    Nowadays, there is often an interesting twist for a romance novel or movie to have the woman propose marriage. As to this anti-traditional behavior, there is a heated discussion among men and women, but their attitudes vary.
    Men’s opinions seem to be more rational comparatively. Some of them think that they should take the initiative to propose, or they would feel their major moment in life stolen. In contrast to this group, other men would say that a confident man would accept a woman’s accomplishments and skills, as well as a marriage proposal, which is also a practice for women to win equality in society. This attitude coincides with that of some feminists, who claim that the significance of women’s equality is that women make their own choices. Some mild ones emphasize that only love matters, while some radical conservative ones would deem women’s proposal as an exposure of insecurity and desperation.
    Sorting out all the divergent ideas, I hold the contention that women have their own right to determine their own destinies. Firstly, the whole society should be inclusive to the choices of both men and women. True equality is achieved in the society, when people take it for granted that a woman chooses to have no children in case of not ruining her figure, and a man chooses to play motherhood at home just because he likes it. Another important condition for women to win equality is that there are more and more open-minded fathers and husbands. No one should dictate to women how they should feel about gender roles, or what roles they should fill in families. Last but not least, winning the right to determine one’s own fate is a basic pursuit of human. Several decades ago, women gained their right to vote and to choose their career over childbearing. It may take some other decades for feminists to delete the prejudice deeply rooted in human minds.
    In a word, I advocate that women should have the right to propose, or not, according to their own preferences rather than the concept of the society. Feminism is rather young and still evolving to keep pace with the times.

解析 本题讨论女性是否该主动求婚的问题,属于社会生活类话题。本题要求简要概括所给材料中的两种观点,并发表自己的看法。在具体的写作过程中,考生可以开篇点明社会现象,并提出论题:女人求婚是否有违传统;第二段简要阐述来自男女双方的观点;第三段重点阐述自己对这一问题的看法,并说明理由;最后一段总结全文,重申观点。
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