(1) We have an intimate relationship with our phones. We sleep with them, eat

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问题    (1) We have an intimate relationship with our phones. We sleep with them, eat with them and carry them in our pockets. We check them, on average, 47 times a day—82 times if you’re between 18 and 24 years old, according to recent data.
   (2) And we love them for good reasons: They tell the weather, the time of day and the steps we’ve taken. They find us dates, entertain us with music and connect us to friends and family. They answer our questions and quell feelings of loneliness and anxiety.
   (3) But phone love can go too far—so far that it can interfere with human love—old fashioned face-to-face intimacy with that living and breathing being you call your partner, spouse, lover or significant other.
   (4) The conflict between phone love and human love is so common, it has its own lexicon (词汇). If you’re snubbing your partner in favor of your phone it’s called phubbing (phone + snubbing). If you’re snubbing a person in favor of any type of technology, it’s called technoference. A popular song by Lost Kings even asks: "Why don’t you put that [expletive] phone down?"
   (5) "A key to a healthy relationship is being present," said James Roberts, author of Too Much of a Good Thing: Are You Addicted to Your Smartphone? When one partner constantly checks his or her phone it sends an implicit message that they find the phone (or what’s on it) more interesting than you.
   (6) In a 2016 study published in the journal Psychology of Popular Media Culture, 70 percent of women revealed that smartphones were negatively affecting their primary relationship. More than one-third of the 143 women in the study said their partner responded to notifications mid-conversation: one out of four said their partner texted during conversations. The women who reported high levels of technoference in interactions with their partners were less happy with their relationships and with their lives overall.
   (7) It’s not just women who are feeling dissed. Dr. Roberts, who is a professor of marketing at Baylor University, asked 175 men and women questions about their partners’ smartphone use. Nearly half of respondents, 46 percent, reported being phone snubbed (phubbed) by their partner. People who reported higher levels of phubbing also reported higher levels of relationship conflict.
   (8) In our quest to be connected through technology, we’re tuning out our partners and interrupting a kind of biological broadband connection.
   (9) "People are beginning to realize that something is amiss," said Sherry Turkle, an M. I. T. technology professor and author of Reclaiming Conversation: The Power of Talk in a Digital Age. " They don’t necessarily know what to do about it, but they are open to change. "
   (10) Judith Bell, a leadership coach and co-founder of Relationships That Work in Novato, Calif. , has noticed that her clients are starting to respect phone boundaries. "Now they turn off their phones when they are in session. A few years back, they would let themselves be interrupted. "
   (11) If you’re feeling frustrated by phone interference in your relationship, talk to your partner but be positive. "Emphasize the benefits of being more connected," Ms. Bell said. Rather than dictate to your partner what they should or should not do, try an approach such as, "I love talking with you, but when you’re constantly checking your phone it’s hard to have a great conversation. "
   (12) "The first step is awareness," Dr. Roberts said.
   (13) Here are some suggested ways to break up with your phone long enough to connect with your partner.
   (14) Designate "no cell" zones in your home. With your partner, decide which areas of your home, such as the living room and the kitchen, should be technology-free. And consider eliminating phone use in the car so that you can use that time to talk to your partner about whatever is on your mind.
   (15) Try a phone-free bedroom for one week. Yes, it’s fun to check Twitter just before bed, or when you’re sleepless at 2 a. m. , but you might be more likely to converse with your partner if the phone were elsewhere. And just the act of favoring your relationship over your phone sends a clear message to your partner.
   (16) "Buy some old-fashioned alarm clocks for your bedside table," Dr. Turkle suggested. "Put your cellphones in a basket in the kitchen. "
   (17) Keep phones off the table. When you’re eating at home or in a restaurant, keep phones off the table. The mere presence of a cellphone—with the possibility of it chirping or buzzing at any moment—can inhibit the free flow of conversation, according to a study published last year in the journal Environment & Behavior. Researchers examined how conversations between two people were influenced by cellphones. When a phone was present during a conversation, the partners rated the conversation as less fulfilling and reported less feelings of empathic concern than when phones were absent.
   (18) Practice phone etiquette. If you must look at your phone, announce that you are doing so. "I am just checking the score/weather/playlist for two minutes," shows courtesy and indicates to your partner that you are aware that your attention is shifting. It may also make you more aware of how often you pick up your phone when your partner is present.
   (19) If your partner’s job demands round-the-clock availability, discuss reasonable boundaries that would satisfy both the job and you.
   (20) " The big challenge is that people are not talking about these issues enough," said Daniel Ellenberg, a psychotherapist (精神治疗医师) and partner with Ms. Bell in Relationships That Work. "We need to open up the social intercourse. "
   (21) Should your partner seem reluctant to let go of ingrained phone habits, consider turning to an objective source. Rather than wag your finger, you might suggest that you both take a closer look at your phone habits.
   (22) "Couples need to form an alliance and decide together what are the new rules," Dr. Turkle said.
   (23) Dr. David Greenfield, a University of Connecticut psychiatry professor and founder of the Center for Internet and Technology Addiction developed a simple quiz, the Smartphone Compulsion Test, to help determine if a person’s phone use is problematic. Let the score be the judge, rather than you. [br] Which of the following tips on reducing phone interference in the interaction between partners is INCORRECT?

选项 A、To list dos and don’ts of phone use for your partner.
B、To establish phone-free time and zones in your house.
C、To put phones in places other than on the dining table.
D、To inform your partner that you have to check your phone.

答案 A

解析 事实细节题。根据题干提示定位至第十一段至十八段。第十一段第一句提到贝尔女士的建议:如果你为手机干扰到你们的关系而感到沮丧,那就和你的伴侣谈谈,但态度要积极。该段第三句对此建议做了进一步解释,不要命令你的伴侣应该做什么,不该做什么,而是尝试如下方法:“我喜欢和你聊天,但是当你不停地查看手机时,就很难进行愉快的交谈了。”由此可知,贝尔女士建议减少手机干扰的方法是和伴侣说明手机干扰的影响,而不是向伴侣列举使用手机时应该做的和不该做的事情,A与原文表述相悖,故为答案。文章第十四段第一句和第十五段第一句分别提到在家中指定一个“无手机”区域和尝试一个星期不把手机带进卧室,由此可知,作者建议在家中设立无手机区域以及无手机时段,B与原文表述相符,故排除;第十七段第一句提到,不要把手机放在餐桌上,而第二句进一步解释道,当你在家中或餐馆里吃饭时,不要把手机放在桌上。由此可知,作者建议不要把手机放在餐桌上,C与原文表述相符,故排除;第十八段前两句指出:遵循手机礼节。如果你必须查看手机,那就告知对方你要这么做,由此可知,作者建议要告知伴侣你得查看手机,D与原文表述相符,故排除。
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