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How to Get Over a Breakup
    Neil Sedaka once sang that "breaking up is hard to do", a statement that holds absolutely true for most people. Ending a relationship is hard, whether it was your decision or the other person’s decision. You may be dealing with painful emotions and want to deal with those feelings as quickly as possible. There are several ways that you can work through your painful emotions and start to move on.
    [1] First, you need to stand by your decision. [2]If the breakup was your decision, keep in mind that focusing on the good times you had with your partner may cause you to forget the reasons why you broke it off. By the same token, try not to second-guess the situation if the decision to end things was not yours. It’s very common to romanticize the good parts of the relationship and convince yourself that the bad parts weren’t so bad after all. Don’t play this game with yourself. [3]Accept the situation and work on moving forward.
    [4]Then, consider the reasons why you are better off without your ex. [5]In addition to reminding yourself of everything that bothered you about your ex, you can also benefit from thinking about the positives to your breakup. Make another list of all of the reasons why you are better off without your ex
    For example, maybe your ex discouraged your efforts to eat healthy, so now you feel more empowered to follow a healthy diet and take better care of yourself. [6] Or maybe your ex never wanted to do any of the things that you wanted to do, so now you have the freedom to do all of those things. List all of the reasons why you are better off without your ex.
    [7]Last, you should get out and do things. After a relationship ends, it is okay to have some time to yourself at home. [8]Just make sure that you get back out in the world after you have processed your feelings. Make plans, go out with your friends, and have fun! It might seem awkward at first, but it will get easier and it will help you to feel better. [9]Getting out and doing things is also important because you need to grow and maintain your social network after a breakup. Doing so will help you to move on with your life.
    [10]Don’t feel like you need to go out with other people all of the time. Take yourself out to do things and enioy the freedom to do what you want. Go to your favorite coffee shop, go shopping, or take yourself on a mini-vacation.
    Keep in mind that getting over a breakup takes time and patience. If things don’t seem to get better with time, remember that you can always turn to friends, family, or even a mental health professional for support. Take your time, do it step by step, and your broken heart will surely heal one day.